A friend of mine called me yesterday to see if I would watch her twin boys as the school and daycare facilities were going to be closed for election day. I must also make mention that both of them, she and her husband, work.
Anyway, she went on to explain that her oldest daughter was not feeling good and therefore couldn’t handle the responsibility of watching Thing 1 and Thing 2 (Dr. Seuss…).
Never having been one to say ‘no’ to someone in need, I told her that I wouldn’t mind watching them. This wasn’t entirely true; I fibbed a tiny bit. While I’ve never had a bit of trouble handling her boys, I wasn’t really in the mood to take on more kids. Besides getting out at some point today and voting, I’m having to also get the house ready for ‘show’ for some potential buyers. And with my own kids out of school this was already going too prove to be a feat of wills, but I told her to bring them on over. Truthfully, dealing with children has never been a problem for me. Adults, yes—kids no.
Well, I woke up this morning with the mind set of having a house full of kids, but it didn’t happen. She called about 15minutes after she was due to show up (7 am) with some news. Seems her daughter was running a high fever and she was going to have to bring her in to see the doctor.
” Looks like she might have strep throat….”
No sooner than she had spoken these words did she tell me that she would be late bringing the boys over cause she had to wait for the doctor’s office to open. Now, here’s where I got confused. She was still planning on bringing her other children over for me to watch…the same kids that were exposed to their sick sister….after she (the mom) was already going to miss a half day’s work with the doctor visit.
Now,their family is on the higher end of middle class and there is really no need for her to work; the don’t need the money. But, she was determined to go instead of taking a day–one day– off to tend to her kids. I’m baffled by today’s society and I don’t understand this. Not the least bit.
It appears to me that they (society) are so willing to pawn off their kids and the responsibility that comes in raising them to someone else ,even a total stranger if necessary, so long as it means they can do what they (the parents) want in the end.
She was a bit taken back when I told her not to bring her ‘exposed’ kids over. I explained that we have field trips coming up all this week and I have photo shoots planned for next week. We didn’t need to be getting sick.
I don’t feel that I was being mean. Do you think I was being mean? She was quiet for a moment on the other end of the phone as I suggested that she just go ahead and take the day off. It was almost as if I was speaking a different language and her translator wasn’t working. Then she spoke and said that maybe she could…only because she couldn’t find anyone else to watch her kids as Grandma was out of town. My friend really didn’t want to stay home with her OWN children and was willing to get my kids sick in the process if it meant she could go to work. You could hear the disappointment in her voice.
I don’t get today’s mothers. I even encountered this with the Girl Scout moms the other night. They were longing for the day when they could put their kids in daycare and get back to work. Why bother having children if you don’t want to take the time to raise them?! No wonder kids are so screwed up these days. Every Tom, Dick, and Harriet in Hilliary’s village is raising them instead of the parents.
Now, there is quite an age difference between my friend and I as well with the Girl Scout moms– About 9 years or so— and maybe this plays into the mix. They’re of a different generation apparently. Either that or I’m a dinosaur left over from the dawn of time and have been living in my own little world for too long.
I love my friend to death and she’s such a blessing, but I just don’t understand where her train of thought is coming from. Do you? Could someone please explain this to me? Am I all alone in my belief?